Women Spanking Men With Paddles
A woman spanking her man can be a turn on for some people. It can also be a part of BDSM (dominance/submission, sadomasochism, etc) practices for those into it.
Whether it’s a fetish or just some kinky roleplay, a woman spanking a man is a topic that’s been debated. Dangerous Minds shared a clip from the New York Daily Mirror.
How to Spank A Man
Men love to be spanked, and a little corporal punishment can spice up any sex life. But it’s important to do it right, and learn the rules of BDSM before you start.
You and your partner should first be in agreement. You should also set clear boundaries and ground rules for your relationship. That way, both of you know what to expect and will be less likely to be upset or confused.
Another thing to keep in mind is that you can only spank your partner if you are in a calm state. If you are angry, your partner will not be receptive and will feel disrespected. If you are the submissive, it is your responsibility to be respectful of the HOH, and only speak positively about them.
It’s also important to decide whether your partner will be naked or clothed during spanking sessions. Some people find that being naked arouses them more, while others are just as satisfied with being clothed. Finally, it’s best to start with light strokes and work your way up to a harder spanking style. Then, you can ask your partner if the level of pain is satisfying and stop the session. You can also use different tools like a hairbrush or wooden spoon, a ruler or spatula.
Spanking Techniques
Spanking can be a very personal experience. While many women find spanking erotic, not everyone finds it appealing. Spanking can be a risky way to spice up a relationship. It requires clear communication, a safe phrase and good aftercare.
Regardless of whether you’re spanking your partner as a form of foreplay or as part of a more intense sexual encounter, the key to pleasure is in the delivery. The timbre of the hand, how much force is used and how much movement is involved all influence the impact.
A gentle pat, for example, can feel more intimate than a hard slap. The way you hold your hand is also important. You can use the palm or the heel of your hand, and you can experiment with how far you move your arm while slapping to create different textures and sounds. Using more of the forearm will produce harder and more penetrating swats, while using your wrist is more intimate and might work better with a little who is intolerant to pain.
You can also enhance the sensations of a spanking by stroking or caressing the area. You can also explore any position that feels good. Erotic spanking involves a lot of stroking and touching, as well as a fluid rhythm. There are many implements that you can use to make a spank even more fun, such as brushes, toys, fingers and hands.
Spanking Tools
There are lots of kinky tools out there for impact play, from nipple clamps to spreader bars to electrostimulation kits. But paddles are the simplest — and one of the most popular implements among BDSM practitioners. Paddles are a great way to get a feeling for how much pain you can cause and can be used in a wide variety of ways. They are available in a variety of sizes and materials – from simple to elaborate. Kinksters recommend that you avoid paddles mass produced by sex toy companies and choose paddles made by people who have experience in spanking and sensation.
The ElectaStim Bi-Polar Spanking Paddle for example, has metal components which encourage deeper nerve endings, and deliver shocking pain with each smack. The paddle is also wide for bigger bodies and features adjustable power settings so you can customize the intensity to the needs of your partner.
Another classic spanking tool is a whip. Whips can be used for intense S&M impacts and can cause deep welts and even break the skin. They require both the spanker and the handler to have some experience. They can be very loud and trigger childhood traumas in some people. It is important to use these whips sparingly and respectfully on non-sensitive areas of the body.
Spanking Tips
Spanking can be an amazing kink that brings you and your partner closer together and is often a sexual turn on for both of you. It is important to prepare for what may happen during your spanking.
Start slowly. This will allow you to warm up and establish a rhythm that will help later. During your spanking session, you can use different techniques or layers. This can help with the ebb and flow of the punishment as well.
Try experimenting with the amount of pressure you apply and where you strike. The lower 2/3rds and top 1/3rd of the thighs, for example, are the most popular “sit spots” to slap. However, you may find that striking higher (on the cheeks, for example) feels more intense or sexual.
Lastly, it is important to talk about what you both want from the spanking. For the receiving partner, this might include additional spanking sessions, a sexy position, orgasms and lingering feelings of pleasure. For the spanker this could include stroking their partner’s legs or back afterward, using body lotion or massage oil, or engaging in sensual sex. These things can make your next spanking session even more exciting and enjoyable for both of you.